Hello again,
In the last couple weeks especially, I’ve been asked (or told depending on how you look at it) that the United States has, by far, the best universities in the world. Immediately after that, I am asked, “so why are you studying in Ireland?” I have been asked by several people, people I work with, random people in pubs, and even my dad has conveyed this message to me from some of his co-workers. But something that never changes when I am asked this question is that the questioner has a smirk on their face, as if they’re thinking, “okay, now how is she going to answer this one?” From what I can tell, they are thinking, oh, she’s just on holiday for four months. She’s one of “those” Americans who can afford to give up a semester of real schooling to go travel the world and that shouldn’t we all be so lucky.
But every time that I here this—or something similar because it comes in different forms—I think, wow, I wish you could have experienced what I have to fully comprehend the independence and greater understanding that I have gained from being almost 2,000 miles away from where I’ve always lived. Part of me gets defensive because how can I not when someone is smirking at me like that?
But I try to tell them, I try to make them understand what it means to come to another country, even one that still speaks English and not only feel out-of-place with the Irish but with the other Americans who are mostly from the Boston and New York crowd. The ones who went to private high schools that cost more than all the state colleges in Michigan, the ones who didn’t even know that my state had two peninsulas, the Ivy league girl who giggles at everything, and the ones who go out to a club at night and easily drop over 100 euro on drinks and cover charges.
The culture shock is almost just as great with these Americans than with the Irish because at least, I expect it from the Irish. And don’t get me wrong, I’ve made some great friends with these people, and not all of them fit into the above categories, even though a lot of them do. So I’ve learned to adapt. I’ve learned to limit myself while still being able to go out and have a great time with the people to whom money is no object.
Then, of course, there are the Irish, who have a much different way of thinking than I do, ranging from careers, to love, to how to have a good time. But despite this, I was able to fit in like one of them. I teach them about myself, and they do the same for them.
There is the academic side, where I was given a full, in-depth look at the Irish history and not only learned about it from books or from my wacky professor but went to the north, the place that is still experiencing history and is even unsafe to walk around in certain areas.
The internship, although I’ve described it in-depth already, is similar to learning about the Irish. The Irish workplace, at least the one I was at, is far from any American workplace I have come across of heard of. At some points, it was difficult to even fathom how my superiors functioned in the completely haphazard environment, but again, I was able to adapt and become well-liked by my employees and a productive member of the team.
And there is one large part that I haven’t mentioned at all because it’s so inbred in what I’m doing almost everyday—the traveling, from first leaving Detroit to flying into Dublin, to arranging a complete 8-day, 4-country vacation for Jenni and myself, to just learning to get around in Ireland and other countries where they don’t speak much English at all. It pulls you so far out of your comfort zone that it becomes normal to feel uncomfortable. There’s something new to see or some new problem to solve on every new street, but you get through it, and you learn that you have to relax. There’s no other way.
I’m not saying I have a perfect answer to this smirky comment by any means, and it would be hard for one person to fully answer it as no one can really experience everything. But I know is that there is no way that I could have learned this much sitting in a classroom. And I know that it was worth it, to spend the money, despite my constant cringing and to let myself be introduced to different possibilities, the ones that are many times forgotten or pushed aside in the place that I come from.
Cheers,
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